Sarah obeyed Abraham

Stand Behind Your Man

by Laura Lloyd

“But let it be the hidden man of the heart, in that which is not corruptible, Even the ornament of a meek and quiet spirit, Which is in the sight of God of great price. For after this manner in the old time the holy women also, Who trusted in God, adorned themselves, Being in subjection to their own husbands: Even as Sarah obeyed Abraham, calling him lord: Whose daughters ye are, as long as ye do well, And are not afraid with any amazement.” I Peter 3:4-6

"Stand Behind Your Man.” The very title is enough to evoke anger in the feminist mind, but to the godly wife it is to be seen as an opportunity to glorify God. There is power and much influence that falls upon the women who take such a lowly stand. We have the precious opportunity to show forth the good qualities of our God by laying down our rights and taking the place of a servant. There are secrets hidden there that most wives will never know. Jesus set the example for us in this, and the fruit of His secrets unfolds before our eyes. Too often we sisters dishonor His name by dishonoring our husbands. By our self-centered arrogance, we spoil the picture of the Bride of Christ to our neighbors. I have done this, and probably many of you have also.

The beauty of a meek and quiet spirit is the key to standing behind our man. Sarah’s daughters make themselves beautiful by placing themselves under the authority of their husbands. Developing this gentle and peaceful spirit is an attractive quality that won’t fade with old age. I wonder how much of this quality was what attracted the attention of King Abimelech. If you search out Sarah’s age, you will find she was an older woman. According to I Peter 3:4, this quality is very valuable in the sight of God.

The power to stand behind our husbands comes from our faith in God. God brings this out so clearly in I Peter 3:5,6. We see that Sarah could courageously obey her husband because she hoped in God. It is the same with us. Only when we place confident trust in the loving oversight of our Heavenly Father can we receive the grace to overcome the flesh. Our flesh is rebellious. It will resist the direction our husbands give us and imagine all kinds of reasons why we know better than he does. This flesh must be crucified, as we look away from ourselves and lean upon God. In this article, I would like to spend a few moments with you looking at some practical ways that we can support our husbands. I want to draw these from two main attitudes of character that we are admonished to develop: a quiet spirit and a meek spirit.

How Do I Stand Behind My Husband?

With a Quiet Spirit

A quiet spirit is much more than not talking. Many have misunderstood this passage of Scripture and made a law out of it: “Don’t talk.” The verse means so much more than this. A quiet spirit is an attitude of the heart, which works out in many different ways. Consider some of the qualities of character that flow from a quiet spirit.

How Do I Stand Behind An Imperfect Man?

With a Meek Spirit

Someone has well said, “Meekness is not weakness.” Again, the feminists react to the challenge to be meek in the sight of our husbands, but they do not understand how God works. It is hidden from their eyes—and maybe from some of our eyes also. Like the quiet spirit, meekness is an attitude with many varied qualities flowing out of it. These qualities have a powerful encouraging effect upon our husbands. Let us cultivate these qualities and reap the benefits.

All of these fall under the category of meekness. Remember, this is of great price in the sight of God, and also your husband.

What if I Don't Stand Behind My Man?

Yes, there are always consequences if we choose to go our own way and depart from God’s ways. “Every wise woman buildeth her house: but the foolish plucketh it down with her hands” (Prov. 14:1). “The foolishness of man perverteth his way: and his heart fretteth against the Lord” (Prov. 19:3). In the name of defending their rights, many women resent and reject the beautiful plan and place God has for them. They ruin their own source of protection and provision and destroy their families. It is often too late when they finally wake up and realize what they are doing. These contentious women are likened to continual dripping on a rainy day. (Prov. 27:15)

May each one of us find that joyous haven of rest under the loving protection, guidance, and provision of our husbands. Aim for a meek spirit where each right is entrusted to God. Run after a peaceful and quiet spirit that is undisturbed and undisturbing. STAND BEHIND YOUR MAN.

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